Picture a perfect world. In it, we would get pregnant with our second child this August...that's right, in a short 5 months. Sophia would be around 9 months old. The new baby would be born around May, Sophia would be 18 months old. The new baby would be a boy. Also in that perfect world, our second baby would be carried by Courtney. The donor would be the same as Sophia's donor. Oh yeah, that perfect world also includes Courtney having insurance and some time saved up to take off with the new tiny.
Our world isn't perfect...I want to say we would still be able to start trying in August. Even if that means using a different donor (since Courtney is sure our KD wouldn't be up for a second donation at the moment). Even if that means Courtney would have to take unpaid Maternity leave because right now her position doesn't offer insurance or PTO accrual. I think we could make it work with what we have. Come next May, we will have most of our debt tackled and that leaves extra cushions financially. Plus, they always say if you wait until you are totally financially stable you will never have kids...and look at what can happen if you think you are financially stable -Court lost her job just months before Sophia was born. We have been fine, things have been tight, but we have not gone without what we need...and we are still paying our bills on time. I think we would manage for a month or two if she wanted to take that time off...we could plan accordingly and save up too.
It is totally possible. My older brother and I were very close in age, 12.5 months actually. Growing up we were best of friends. I loved it. My younger brothers were the same way, and today they are still great friends. I think being able to give Sophia a sibling close to her age would not only benefit her in the long run, but I honestly think it would be easier to have children similar in developmental stages than to have a few years between them. Granted after Baby #2, we would wait a few years to have the next...I think ultimately we would like 4 children :) Basically I want to relive my childhood through my own children hahaha!
We have this fancy 7 year plan in our heads...it goes something like this:
- Get our credit cards essentially paid off by this October.
- Pay my car off within 2 years.
- Pay Courtney's car off a year after that.
- Use all of that extra money to pay off the house within 7 years.
Can you tell we have been thinking A LOT about the future? I am excited to see what is in store for us...but I am also happy to take it one day at a time. Everything happens the way it is supposed to. When it is supposed to. We can just HOPE it is close to our little plans :)
We are planning on trying for number 2 this summer as well with my wife carrying this time. Our son will be about 11 months old at that time. I hope she has our second before I'm done breast feeding so I can breast feed the new baby. Plus I want them close in age too!
ReplyDeleteSounds like the perfect plan so I say go for it. I speak from experience when I say that if having them close in age is important to you, it's just going to get more important the older Sophia gets. We decided to go the "safe" route postponing TTC #2 after I was laid off last year and I really do regret it. Our daughter is now 2, I'm still not pregnant and had we just gone ahead with our TTC plans last July, I think we could have made it work.
ReplyDeleteGood luck to you gals. I'm sure you'll figure out a plan that works perfect for your family. :)
I say go for it! I also say, don't get too attached to the 7 year plan! ;) We had one that looked like that and were on schedule for it, but once I realized how much daycare for three under three is going to be I had to trash it. But I agree with the other posters that if you want them close together it's better to just make it work than to wait until things are 'perfect'
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