Intolerance Wars

Duck Dynasty vs. Same Love

As a lesbian woman in East Tennessee you can imagine my point of view on the anti gay and racist comments made by Phil Robertson. I apparently made the mistake of posting my opinion on the matter on Facebook because the conservatives either got butthurt or rushed to the man's defense.  The issue had been long gone in my mind, though until I watched the Grammys and saw the comments that were made afterwards regarding the mass ceremony performed during Same Love that included some same sex couples. 

So can someone please explain to me why the same sex weddings were worse than the anti gay comments? Because here's what I got out of both of these things..

GQ interview with Phil Robertson:

During a discussion about repentance and God, Robertson is asked what he finds sinful.

"Start with homosexual behavior and just morph out from there," he says. "Beastiality, sleeping around with this woman and that woman and that woman and those men."

He goes on to paraphrase Corinthians: "Don't be deceived. Neither the adulterers, the idolaters, the male prostitutes, the homosexual offenders, the greedy, the drunkards, the slanderers, the swindlers-- they won't inherit the kingdom of God. Don't deceive yourself. It's not right." 

So the guy didn't understand what was more appealing to a gay man about another man's anus.. ok you don't get it. That's fine. Where he crossed the line was when he was asked about what was considered to be sinful. Apparently only things of a sexual nature come to mind when that question is asked. I would think the first things should be worshipping false gods and using the lord's name in vein.. since those are all things that are directly insulting to the god he worships, but no. Apparently any sex other than married, heterosexual, missionary style is repulsive and offensive and on the top of the list as far as sin is concerned. 

 

 

On top of that, he continued the insult by comparing homosexuality/gay sex to beastiality and sleeping with multiple partners.. because all gay people are also sexually attracted to animals, are whores and are just disgusting people all around.

Then there are the ceremonies at the Grammys. During Macklemore's performance of Same Love 34 couples, gay and straight, were wed by Queen Latifah in a mass ceremony. 

 

While supporters of same sex marriage responded, teary eyed, with love and praise, others were not so happy.  Anti gay conservatives referred to the marriages as "disgusting", "despicable" and an "attack on Christianity." 

After seeing both sides of both arguments I can only ask one thing..  Why is it that a Christian man can make disgusting comments about a group of people he doesn't agree with and it is his god given right to do so and anyone who disagrees with him is whiny, intolerant and denying his freedom as an American, but a wedding ceremony that included gay couples, which was not accompanied by any speech at all, is an attack on Christianity? 

Growing Pains

Our little girl will be 2 months old in two days.  Jamie will officially be starting back full time at work on Friday and we are trying to cope with the idea of separation from Sophia.  I can't imagine the feelings Jamie will be dealing with then and I can honestly say that I have no idea what to do to make her feel better about it.  We recently won concert tickets for the 18th of this month and were discussing whether or not we would even want to go and be away from Sophia for an evening.  Since the event is late Jamie suggested that we could go and just let Sophia stay the night with her gramsie so that we didn't wake her up late to bring her home and the idea of spending a night apart from her made me cry like a baby.. in fact it made me sob.  I was embarrassed to be crying so I left the room and started boohooing in the kitchen.. so if I can cry like that over one night away I have no idea how to console Jamie who will now be spending 40 hours a week away from her all while I'm at home with her getting to spend quality time.

I have so many emotions rushing through me that I don't know how to deal with.  The biggest one by far is the overwhelming love I feel for Sophia.  I don't think I knew that I could love her THIS much.  I worry about her every night when we put her to bed, I worry about her future, I pain myself over the thought of her growing up and when I look into her sweet, beautiful eyes I feel a love that I never imagined that I could feel and it just gets stronger every single day.

All while feeling these emotions for Sophia, I'm stressing over our future children.  I get the feeling from our donor that he doesn't want to donate again.  Jamie isn't so sure, but to me it seems pretty clear that this was a one time deal.  There's nobody else in our lives who I would feel ok with asking to donate and with me being unemployed I can't see a sperm bank being a viable option.  I know there are known donor sites, but we checked that out briefly at one point before asking Sophia's donor and neither of us were completely comfortable with it.  All of this leaves me wondering if we'll even be able to work it out to have more children.  We've already made these big plans and I feel like I'm watching them fall apart.  Jamie and I were talking recently and realized that 30 is just around the corner for us.. where did that come from?!!  That only amplified the feeling that we have to get this going pretty quickly if we want to have more children and I just don't know how we would work that out.

Maybe in a year or so we will have more figured out and be able to work on expanding our family so for now we'll focus on our little girl and try to soak up every minute before we blink and she's graduating high school.

She has her 2 month appointment on Tuesday so we should have an update on what's going on. . Until then!